Don’t Get Married

“Courtship is to marriage as a very witty prologue to a very dull play.” ~ William Congreve 1670-1729

*If you are happily married— check in with me tomorrow, when I’ll be ranting about Donald Trump, take today off.

To everyone else— Don’t get married. This is the single most valuable piece of advice I offer anyone interested in the opinion of a compulsive over-thinker. 

*Disclaimer— I am not a licensed therapist. These are my opinions…today.

When you get divorced, unhappily married people come out of the woodwork to tell you their tales of woe and beg advice from someone who came out on the other side. 

“How did you do it?” “You’re my hero.” “I’m afraid of dying alone.” (I hear the faint sound of a tiny 🎻 violin playing in the distance.) I hate to tell you this, but we all die alone.

I know very few happily married couples. “Hey Siri, what’s the divorce rate in America is now?” Holy Hell, that statistic has gone up since I last checked… 50%. I hope my post dissolution euphoria had nothing to do with the spike in numbers.

The anniversary of my divorce just passed. Ah yes, I remember it well… the feeling I had when I walked out of the courthouse on that crisp sunny autumn day… an ethereal lightness of being, my soul ascending to another plane… (“Free Bird” playing in background)

“Why shouldn’t I get married Lydia? We’re in love and I need health insurance.” (That may be me someday- I hate Trump)
Live together. The medical insurance problem is fluid, so don’t  be hasty. I have a few questions worthy of consideration for you. Why do you feel the need to involve the government in your relationship? Are you really so insecure in love that you need legal participation? Are you afraid your partner will notice that long chin hair and disappear in the night? Is the charade of your perfection too exhausting to maintain? Are you eager to let yourself go? Blenders and toasters are quite affordable these days. 

“I neeeeeed to be in a relationship.” These people try to hang onto the relationship that’s over until they can find the replacement part. If they somehow mistimed the exchange, and are between victims, they are desperately searching and boring everyone to death with their tales of despair. — Don’t be this person. 

“But we want a long term commitment.” Buy real estate in both your names, and set up a 30 year mortgage— bam, long term binding legal commitment. You might walk away with a profit. 

“I want to claim ownership.” With this statement I sense an imminent power struggle. Marriage does not guarantee monogamy. If a person is going to cheat, a piece of paper won’t prevent it. You can vow to be faithful without the help of the court system, and if you discover your lover isn’t loyal it’s easier to kick’em to the curb without the encumbrance of a marriage licence. 

“The sound of my biological clock clanging gets louder every day, it’s deafening.” It is a proven scientific fact, and has been since the dawn of man, you do not need to be married to procreate. Additionally, you should not consider having a child unless you have the financial means to support one alone. Children are a lifelong responsibility. You can not count on someone else sharing the responsibility or the expense, married or not— That’s a fact Jack, and here’s another— the species will not die out without your contribution— just an observation.

50% failure rate, or is it a success rate— is that cup half empty or half full? How many of those who stay married are happy doing so?

Marriage is called an institution for a reason. It can be suffocatingly oppressive, and an unequal division of labor is impossible to avoid— which leads to resentment. With marriage you can’t just walk away without going through an (often) expensive lengthy legal process involving a third party. What is romantic about that? 

So with that final happy thought in mind, I am thoroughly enjoying my solitude today…but, if you happen upon a single version of Colin Firth, who happens to have a good health insurance plan, liberal political leanings, and isn’t opposed to a vegan lifestyle, leave a comment, à tout à l’heure. 😜 (Okay, cue the circus music.)

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<a href=”https://dailypost.wordpress.com/prompts/ascend/”>Ascend</a&gt;

Donald Trump is a Misogyistic Bully

‪Good Sunday morning. On this day of worship (more likely he’s golfing) for a man still approved by 73% of white evangelicals, Donald Trump-who believes he is entitled to grab women’s genitalia (aka/sexual assault), thinks this violent gif of him swinging a golf club, hitting Hillary Clinton in the back with the golf ball, in turn knocking her over as she boards an airplane, is appropriate to retweet. Why? Because he is a misogynistic bully, who regularly displays his level of  brain development, which is on par (pun intended) with that of a terrible 2 year old. This is our president— be proud America— our POTUS 45. ‬

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<a href=”https://dailypost.wordpress.com/prompts/sting/”>Sting</a&gt;

The Anniversary of the 19th Amendment—Women’s Right to Vote

Today, August 26, is “Women’s Equality Day.” On this day in 1920, after decades of work toward the cause, women secured the right to vote. Today is the anniversary the passing of 19th Amendment to the U.S. Constitution.

This is not to say women are on equal footing in America 97 years later. Those who believe we are have a distorted view of the type of society we live in. We may however have equal opportunities to hold the same jobs men hold, at a discounted rate of pay. 

We also have a man in the White House, when a woman won the popular vote by nearly 3 million. Granted, the failure of the electoral college, gerrymandering, and Russian interference were the catalysts for that injustice. 

In my opinion women have a bigger issue. Globally 1 of 3 women will be victims a of sexual assault in their lifetimes.
In America the statistic of sexual assault is 1 of 5, I’ve also read that 1 of 4 women will be sexually assaulted while attending college.

In America 97% of rapists don’t spend a single night in jail. 

For every 10 rapes, only 1 victim is male. I’m not wishing more violence against men, I’m pointing out another disparity. We do not live in a country where women are equal to men, in personal safety or in rights. 

Why do I bring this up on the anniversary of the ratification of 19th Amendment? 

We have an unregistered sex offender in the White House. He doesn’t deny it. He was caught on tape bragging about it…a tape released to the public prior to the election, but still he was elected. During the campaign, a dozen women accused him of sexual assault. In response, we elected him to office over a woman. 

Men in Washington, behind closed doors, have been trying to take away basic preventative healthcare from women since Donald Trump was inaugurated. They want mammograms, pap smears, prenatal care, and birth control omitted from healthcare coverage. They want rape to be a pre-existing condition.

Donald Trump is a man who unabashedly degrades and assaults women, comments about women’s bodies, and has claimed women should be punished for having abortions. 

Here is a stunning fact: Without the white female vote in key states Donald Trump would not have won the election. Trump won 53% of the white female vote. 

On the anniversary of suffragist’s achievement, I can’t help but wonder what they would think if they knew 53% of white women would vote for a man like Donald Trump, the personification of misogyny, and all he represents, rather than a woman with a lifetime of experience. 
I know…but what about the e-mails. 

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<a href=”https://dailypost.wordpress.com/prompts/dignify/”>Dignify</a&gt;

An Illusion of Healthcare 


Trumpcare is the new plan for you to buy

You may keep your doctor but there’s a glitch

We exclude illness, so millions will die

But there will be more money for the rich

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You pay for insurance, a monthly bill

Every claim you submit we’ll deny

It’s all pre-existing, say what you will

And your age…well I’m afraid it’s too high

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Big Pharma companies somehow contrived

To charge Americans two times as much 

For prescription drugs that keep them alive

Let us give Pharma a tax cut as such

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The GOP with ties to Russian banks

Betsy Devos’ family— owns Spectracare 

Alfa bank invested, the Russians say thanks

AND…Congress members keep Obamacare

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Trump Tweets lies of a plan he has not read

Promises tax cuts to billionaire friends

Democrats can’t vote if they are all dead 

That is how this healthcare illusion ends 
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<a href=”https://dailypost.wordpress.com/prompts/illusion/”>Illusion</a&gt;

Days of Murky Politics

**Fair warning: philosophical and political musings expressed here are tainted with liberalism. 

Today is June 17, 2017, and as has been the case since November 9, 2016, there is an over abundance of news available for me to slant into my (correct) position: 

  • Donald Trump is now officially under investigation yet he continues to tweet himself into a corner. 
  • Ivanka, beautiful leader of the faux feminism movement, is now too under investigation.
  • Trump continues to ignore the emoluments clause spending 1 of 3 days as president at a Trump property… there’s more, always.

Rather than a specific event, today I choose to complain in general, about how we got into this fine mess (aside from Russia). 

Regardless of the chaos in the world today, only half of the American population has an opinion with regards to politics, the other half is blissfully ignorant. (I too was happy once.) Of the opinionated half, party affiliations are deeply rooted. That doesn’t stop constant attempts by both sides to dig each other up for replanting. 

I don’t expect to change opinions of those who have them, and I’m not interested in an argument. I would like to plant a seed of thought in the minds of the politically disinterested. (Not unlike what a person forming cult would do—which I am not.)

Human beings are as selfish a species as any other. We protect our selves and our own above all else. It is a dog eat dog world out there, and we all want to feed our dogs first. (I don’t really know what that means.) I’m trying to say we can not do for others if we are struggling to do for ourselves. 

This is a common but subjective philosophy. It can be said that a paycheck to paycheck existence prevails at every income level. The more we make the more we spend. There is never enough money. 

This is why no one wants to pay taxes, because we need every penny we earn, but unless we are among the Donald Trump’s of the world, we do pay taxes.

For example, if the muffler falls off my car, it’s a big deal for me. I punch my steering wheel, curse my ancestors, and then pull out my credit card hoping it won’t be declined. I whine about how unfair life is…woe is me, and then I call Lyft in order to fulfill my Sisyphean lifestyle. (Uber is on the grab your wallet list.) 

Miserable people (whom I try not to emulate), focus their thoughts on those who have more money to throw at their problems. If Donald Trump’s muffler falls off, he probably fires his driver. Others who are more well off than I might buy a new car. But what about the other half? 

The compassionate sect (sect? maybe I do harbor a subconscious desire to start a cult) consider people without cars, people without bus fare, people without a job to go to. Focusing on those who have less makes it easier to realize my life isn’t that bad…(I sincerely apologize to my steering wheel and ancestors for the verbal and physical abuse they frequently suffer.)

Let’s change that muffler that fell off to an appendix. We all end up in an emergency room when our appendix falls off, and some of us will be devastated because the gold lame string bikini we just purchased for our Fijian holiday won’t cover the new scar, for others among us the medical bills and the unpaid time off work will be the final financial blow that will put us on the streets. 

We pay taxes to pay for things like roads and streetlights, but we also pay taxes because we are not dogs eating dogs. We help each other because—

THERE BUT FOR THE GRACE OF GOD GO I.


Open your eyes and take a look at the people who have less than you. You are not a better person because you have more money. You do not deserve to suffer less because you had a trust fund. Everyone deserves an education. Everyone deserves healthcare. With these thoughts in mind, you need to register to vote, and then vote, and find a way to be blissful without the ignorance.
Here is my final momism for the day- spend less than you make, smell the flowers, and vote ethically by voting out the venal GOP. 
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<a href=”https://dailypost.wordpress.com/prompts/blossom/”>Blossom</a&gt;

U With the Uterus 

Hey! You with the uterus! 

Stop right there!

Drop that insurance card!

Hands in the air!

You suspected pregnancy 

And bought a urine test

Don’t try to pass it off as new— 

The condition pre-exists!

Mammograms and Pap smears

All your women’s needs

You expect them to be covered 

In your health plan? That’s just greed.

Rich old white male politicians 

Won’t vote to subsidize the cost

Of care to keep you healthy here

In America— democracy is lost

Though they all had mothers 

Who birthed them at one time

Do their moms see what happened 

To their Repugnant offspring? It’s a crime.

A tax cut has priority 

Over compassion and ethics

Viagra however— treats a condition 

Which never pre-exists

So, you with the uterus, 

Happy Mothers Day!

Of that uterus, what happens to it— 

By the way, you have no say

Though the senate won’t approve this bill, 

Their version keeps women under attack

Because it’s not orange, no it’s Women 

Women are the GOP’s new black